Transformations
The Impact
Real journeys from the Onyx Elite community — individuals who immersed, adapted, and evolved. Their results are the proof of what’s possible when you commit to the process.
What My Clients Say
Real feedback from people I've worked with. Their experiences tell you more about my approach than I ever could.
Mark McDonnell
When I first met Jay, l was consumed by anger, resentment, and a deep sense of injustice. I knew I needed healing and had already worked with two highly qualified psychologists-yet, despite their expertise, I was left feeling empty Then I met Jay. From our very first session, I experienced more hope and positivity than I had felt in months of traditional therapy. Jay guided me through a journey of self-discovery and growth, helping me reconnect with my authentic self in ways I never imagined possible. Jay's approach is unique-he meets you exactly where you are and creates a tailored experience that goes far beyond conversation. Through deep, meaningful dialogue, physical activity, breathwork, grounding, mindfulness, retreats, ice/heat immersion, and other transformative techniques, Jay facilitates true breakthroughs. Thanks to Jay, I have not only reclaimed myself but have become a more vibrant, empowered version of who I was meant to be. I've since introduced countless friends, colleagues, and associates to Jay, and every single one has experienced remarkable, life-changing results. If you are seeking real, lasting transformation, I cannot recommend Jay highly enough.
Mark McDonnell
When I first met Jay, l was consumed by anger, resentment, and a deep sense of injustice. I knew I needed healing and had already worked with two highly qualified psychologists-yet, despite their expertise, I was left feeling empty Then I met Jay. From our very first session, I experienced more hope and positivity than I had felt in months of traditional therapy. Jay guided me through a journey of self-discovery and growth, helping me reconnect with my authentic self in ways I never imagined possible. Jay's approach is unique-he meets you exactly where you are and creates a tailored experience that goes far beyond conversation. Through deep, meaningful dialogue, physical activity, breathwork, grounding, mindfulness, retreats, ice/heat immersion, and other transformative techniques, Jay facilitates true breakthroughs. Thanks to Jay, I have not only reclaimed myself but have become a more vibrant, empowered version of who I was meant to be. I've since introduced countless friends, colleagues, and associates to Jay, and every single one has experienced remarkable, life-changing results. If you are seeking real, lasting transformation, I cannot recommend Jay highly enough.
Jaggar Altoft
I've been working with Jay on and off for the past 3 years in literally all areas of my life. He was my Strength and Conditioning coach in 2023 when I was a full time athlete trialling for the Olympic Games as a competitive boxer in 2023 I had massive growth as an athlete through his programming but more importantly his ability to teach the importance of breath and its connection to the nervous system which brings astronomical changes in competition. Jay also has a funny way of showing up in my life when I need him most. Apart from mentoring me as a PT, coaching me as an athlete. He has guided me to unpack parts of myself that I didn't know was possible. To face my demons head on and be proud of the inner work that l've been able to express. Jay leads from the front and puts himself in crazy experiences, shares the stories and motivates others to do the same. I can't thank this man enough for what he has done for me and my family. Truly an incredible human being.
Jaggar Altoft
I've been working with Jay on and off for the past 3 years in literally all areas of my life. He was my Strength and Conditioning coach in 2023 when I was a full time athlete trialling for the Olympic Games as a competitive boxer in 2023 I had massive growth as an athlete through his programming but more importantly his ability to teach the importance of breath and its connection to the nervous system which brings astronomical changes in competition. Jay also has a funny way of showing up in my life when I need him most. Apart from mentoring me as a PT, coaching me as an athlete. He has guided me to unpack parts of myself that I didn't know was possible. To face my demons head on and be proud of the inner work that l've been able to express. Jay leads from the front and puts himself in crazy experiences, shares the stories and motivates others to do the same. I can't thank this man enough for what he has done for me and my family. Truly an incredible human being.
James Alexander
I first met Jay on his one day Soltara retreat. It was a bit of a rough start, straight into 6 hours of physical training and pushing me to my limits both physically and mentally. At the time, I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted. I didn't realise how far from the truth I was. Since then I have been working with Jay consistently for the last few years. He has helped me peel back the layers of who I really am and face myself. Within this work I have been able to accept and let go of past experiences that have been holding me back. Throughout our sessions, he has guided and helped me stay present in becoming a better man for myself and everyone in my life. He has been a very strong role model for me and someone I look up to as a mentor! He has the ability to truely show up for his clients and create a space where anything and everything is accepted with love and patience. I am truly grateful for what Jay has done for me and enabling me to step into my purpose. Thankyou for what you do brother, you have shown me what gratitude really means. You have allowed me to open and connect to this heart that was once a rock!
James Alexander
I first met Jay on his one day Soltara retreat. It was a bit of a rough start, straight into 6 hours of physical training and pushing me to my limits both physically and mentally. At the time, I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted. I didn't realise how far from the truth I was. Since then I have been working with Jay consistently for the last few years. He has helped me peel back the layers of who I really am and face myself. Within this work I have been able to accept and let go of past experiences that have been holding me back. Throughout our sessions, he has guided and helped me stay present in becoming a better man for myself and everyone in my life. He has been a very strong role model for me and someone I look up to as a mentor! He has the ability to truely show up for his clients and create a space where anything and everything is accepted with love and patience. I am truly grateful for what Jay has done for me and enabling me to step into my purpose. Thankyou for what you do brother, you have shown me what gratitude really means. You have allowed me to open and connect to this heart that was once a rock!
Primo Jacniacki
What a ride! I have participated in two one day retreats with Onyx Elite, I also had a privilege to train with Jay and his crew for a few years now. The Onyx Elite model of training and performing is just next level and forces you to show up and level up on every aspect -physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. No stone is left unturned and if you commit and come with clear intentions, you will find the answers you looking for. You will be challenged, you will be tested, you will work hard, you will cry, you will laugh and if you dig deep and give it everything you got, you will come out on the other side, reborn - stronger, healthier, happier and more aware. I highly recommend doing the one day retreat as a first step on your journey to self improvement, however you must be sure and committed and you must set clear intentions for this to work. You need to be ready to look deeply inside your soul and implement the changes you already know you need to implement. You need to be ready to let go of everything that has held you back and jump into the unknown. It’s not as easy as it sounds but if I could do it, so can you. Embrace your potential. You can Trust the people from Onyx Elite to take you to the next level, these guys know what they are doing. For me this was life changing and life saving experience that I am forever grateful for.
Primo Jacniacki
What a ride! I have participated in two one day retreats with Onyx Elite, I also had a privilege to train with Jay and his crew for a few years now. The Onyx Elite model of training and performing is just next level and forces you to show up and level up on every aspect -physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. No stone is left unturned and if you commit and come with clear intentions, you will find the answers you looking for. You will be challenged, you will be tested, you will work hard, you will cry, you will laugh and if you dig deep and give it everything you got, you will come out on the other side, reborn - stronger, healthier, happier and more aware. I highly recommend doing the one day retreat as a first step on your journey to self improvement, however you must be sure and committed and you must set clear intentions for this to work. You need to be ready to look deeply inside your soul and implement the changes you already know you need to implement. You need to be ready to let go of everything that has held you back and jump into the unknown. It’s not as easy as it sounds but if I could do it, so can you. Embrace your potential. You can Trust the people from Onyx Elite to take you to the next level, these guys know what they are doing. For me this was life changing and life saving experience that I am forever grateful for.
Joe Veevers
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When I first started working with Jay 2yrs ago I was in a pretty dark place. I felt hopelessly lost, depressed, and unsure of where my life was heading. I felt like I had no real sense of purpose or direction. I was stuck in my own head with not feeling good enough, or worthy of love from others or myself Jay has helped me so much to turn all that around! He has guided me through healing and helped me realise so much about myself. He didn’t just coach me, he believed in me until I started believing in myself again. Because of him, I’ve gone from feeling hopeless to feeling grateful, driven, and focused with a huge sense of gratitude for the life iv created. I’ve built real strength not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. Jay isn’t just a coach to me. He’s a genuine role model, someone who lives what he teaches and has shown me what it means to be a real man, a father and partner, and to lead with purpose. I’m forever grateful for the huge impact he’s had on my life.
Joe Veevers
Title
When I first started working with Jay 2yrs ago I was in a pretty dark place. I felt hopelessly lost, depressed, and unsure of where my life was heading. I felt like I had no real sense of purpose or direction. I was stuck in my own head with not feeling good enough, or worthy of love from others or myself Jay has helped me so much to turn all that around! He has guided me through healing and helped me realise so much about myself. He didn’t just coach me, he believed in me until I started believing in myself again. Because of him, I’ve gone from feeling hopeless to feeling grateful, driven, and focused with a huge sense of gratitude for the life iv created. I’ve built real strength not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. Jay isn’t just a coach to me. He’s a genuine role model, someone who lives what he teaches and has shown me what it means to be a real man, a father and partner, and to lead with purpose. I’m forever grateful for the huge impact he’s had on my life.
Michael Tait
My connection to Jay came via his results. My wife, knowing that I was searching for support in bringing about change in my life was given the details of Onyx Elite Performance by her friend. That friend had seen seismic changes in the life of her partner and was quick to recommend that I speak with Jay. Some background on me. I’m a husband, father, veteran and continuing bush fire volunteer of 19 and a bit years. The man who first met Jay at his gym in September of 2023 was adrift, disconnected, and struggling. Attempts at mindfulness and exercise seemed to have no effect, likely unable to work thanks to the prescriptions for insomnia, anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress. I was ready for change but wouldn’t just grab any suggestions or advice given to me without a bit of checking on my part. When we started, I would listen to Jay, then make a note for later. After our sessions I’d start my research; trust but verify what I was being told and shown. Quickly I saw it was good stuff with solid academic backing. What had me all in was the results coming from the US veteran and first responder studies. Thanks to Jay I was able to work through the months-long process of reducing, then finally eliminating my prescription medications. At times it was tough, but I felt able to do this thanks to the ‘toolkit’ of breathwork, mindfulness, and exercise techniques he taught. Also important was the programmes and guidance material shared with me through my personal online folder. At the beginning of March, I participated in one of the Onyx-led 24hr retreats. With his expert guidance we were pushed to where we needed to be to open up to some real soul-searching and personal development. The personal significance of this session cannot be overstated; the 1st and 2nd of March represents a re-connection with parts of myself I thought had long disappeared. The man writing this referral in April 2024 doesn’t recognise the one who started out with Jay 7 months before. I feel more engaged with the world around me, a better and more present partner and father. The physical and personal changes have also been noticed by my colleagues at work and at the fire station, in turn encouraging me to better prioritise my personal health and wellbeing. Jay and Onyx Elite Performance have been great for my health and wellbeing. I encourage you to check out what is on offer in the group activities and/or the personal training options. For me I see an ongoing engagement with Onyx (and Jay); the programmes kicking up a notch as I continue to push past health milestones.
Michael Tait
My connection to Jay came via his results. My wife, knowing that I was searching for support in bringing about change in my life was given the details of Onyx Elite Performance by her friend. That friend had seen seismic changes in the life of her partner and was quick to recommend that I speak with Jay. Some background on me. I’m a husband, father, veteran and continuing bush fire volunteer of 19 and a bit years. The man who first met Jay at his gym in September of 2023 was adrift, disconnected, and struggling. Attempts at mindfulness and exercise seemed to have no effect, likely unable to work thanks to the prescriptions for insomnia, anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress. I was ready for change but wouldn’t just grab any suggestions or advice given to me without a bit of checking on my part. When we started, I would listen to Jay, then make a note for later. After our sessions I’d start my research; trust but verify what I was being told and shown. Quickly I saw it was good stuff with solid academic backing. What had me all in was the results coming from the US veteran and first responder studies. Thanks to Jay I was able to work through the months-long process of reducing, then finally eliminating my prescription medications. At times it was tough, but I felt able to do this thanks to the ‘toolkit’ of breathwork, mindfulness, and exercise techniques he taught. Also important was the programmes and guidance material shared with me through my personal online folder. At the beginning of March, I participated in one of the Onyx-led 24hr retreats. With his expert guidance we were pushed to where we needed to be to open up to some real soul-searching and personal development. The personal significance of this session cannot be overstated; the 1st and 2nd of March represents a re-connection with parts of myself I thought had long disappeared. The man writing this referral in April 2024 doesn’t recognise the one who started out with Jay 7 months before. I feel more engaged with the world around me, a better and more present partner and father. The physical and personal changes have also been noticed by my colleagues at work and at the fire station, in turn encouraging me to better prioritise my personal health and wellbeing. Jay and Onyx Elite Performance have been great for my health and wellbeing. I encourage you to check out what is on offer in the group activities and/or the personal training options. For me I see an ongoing engagement with Onyx (and Jay); the programmes kicking up a notch as I continue to push past health milestones.
Saskia Stone
When I first met Jay, I was deeply lost. I was chasing validation and happiness through achievements, partying and exercise but the feeling never lasted. Looking on the outside I was successful for my age, but inside I felt I had failed: I was sad and I didn't know why. Jay welcomed me to the weirdest therapy session of my life. With a big hug and a smile, he invited me into his gym. It is here I learned the connection between the body and the mind and how my experiences had manifested physically and mentally. I learnt how to really feel, connect, forgive and eventually heal my body and mind. Within a couple months, I felt like a different person. I felt more content being still, felt more like me and only then realised how far I had drifted from myself. To clarify, working with Jay is uncomfortable. He will hold you accountable. It is emotional, honest, hilarious, painful and terrifying. But he will be there to guide you through the whole journey, a gentle but firm guide. In a blend of science and spiritualism, it is really hard to describe the service Jay provides. All I can say is that I attribute the work he has done with me to becoming a better friend, daughter, sister, athlete, worker and partner to the people I love in my life, and for that I am eternally grateful. The work is far from over but I am damn excited about how far I have come.
Saskia Stone
When I first met Jay, I was deeply lost. I was chasing validation and happiness through achievements, partying and exercise but the feeling never lasted. Looking on the outside I was successful for my age, but inside I felt I had failed: I was sad and I didn't know why. Jay welcomed me to the weirdest therapy session of my life. With a big hug and a smile, he invited me into his gym. It is here I learned the connection between the body and the mind and how my experiences had manifested physically and mentally. I learnt how to really feel, connect, forgive and eventually heal my body and mind. Within a couple months, I felt like a different person. I felt more content being still, felt more like me and only then realised how far I had drifted from myself. To clarify, working with Jay is uncomfortable. He will hold you accountable. It is emotional, honest, hilarious, painful and terrifying. But he will be there to guide you through the whole journey, a gentle but firm guide. In a blend of science and spiritualism, it is really hard to describe the service Jay provides. All I can say is that I attribute the work he has done with me to becoming a better friend, daughter, sister, athlete, worker and partner to the people I love in my life, and for that I am eternally grateful. The work is far from over but I am damn excited about how far I have come.
Paris
Physically - phenomenal, I feel like I can move a mountain. My training this week has been so empowering; I can push myself more because / know what I'm capable of. Mentally - clear, focused, determined, motivated Emotionally - fresh, new, balanced and centred Socially - feel ready to share my energy again with others and just be in community Spiritually - still synthesising, my soul is feeling a little solitary (haha, SOULitary) post-ceremony comedown. I wrote in my journal "I still can't make sense of some things, and I find myself questioning whether they're supposed to be made sense of, or just experienced? Perhaps we don't have the capacity to speak the language of the soul, and we just need to surrender to its knowing?" So enjoyed being my nurturing self, and identified the need for connection with my younger self. Prioritising the femme energy now, and also doing things l used to love like skating, singing, piano, dancing
Paris
Physically - phenomenal, I feel like I can move a mountain. My training this week has been so empowering; I can push myself more because / know what I'm capable of. Mentally - clear, focused, determined, motivated Emotionally - fresh, new, balanced and centred Socially - feel ready to share my energy again with others and just be in community Spiritually - still synthesising, my soul is feeling a little solitary (haha, SOULitary) post-ceremony comedown. I wrote in my journal "I still can't make sense of some things, and I find myself questioning whether they're supposed to be made sense of, or just experienced? Perhaps we don't have the capacity to speak the language of the soul, and we just need to surrender to its knowing?" So enjoyed being my nurturing self, and identified the need for connection with my younger self. Prioritising the femme energy now, and also doing things l used to love like skating, singing, piano, dancing
Mark McDonnell
When I first met Jay, l was consumed by anger, resentment, and a deep sense of injustice. I knew I needed healing and had already worked with two highly qualified psychologists-yet, despite their expertise, I was left feeling empty Then I met Jay. From our very first session, I experienced more hope and positivity than I had felt in months of traditional therapy. Jay guided me through a journey of self-discovery and growth, helping me reconnect with my authentic self in ways I never imagined possible. Jay's approach is unique-he meets you exactly where you are and creates a tailored experience that goes far beyond conversation. Through deep, meaningful dialogue, physical activity, breathwork, grounding, mindfulness, retreats, ice/heat immersion, and other transformative techniques, Jay facilitates true breakthroughs. Thanks to Jay, I have not only reclaimed myself but have become a more vibrant, empowered version of who I was meant to be. I've since introduced countless friends, colleagues, and associates to Jay, and every single one has experienced remarkable, life-changing results. If you are seeking real, lasting transformation, I cannot recommend Jay highly enough.
Jaggar Altoft
I've been working with Jay on and off for the past 3 years in literally all areas of my life. He was my Strength and Conditioning coach in 2023 when I was a full time athlete trialling for the Olympic Games as a competitive boxer in 2023 I had massive growth as an athlete through his programming but more importantly his ability to teach the importance of breath and its connection to the nervous system which brings astronomical changes in competition. Jay also has a funny way of showing up in my life when I need him most. Apart from mentoring me as a PT, coaching me as an athlete. He has guided me to unpack parts of myself that I didn't know was possible. To face my demons head on and be proud of the inner work that l've been able to express. Jay leads from the front and puts himself in crazy experiences, shares the stories and motivates others to do the same. I can't thank this man enough for what he has done for me and my family. Truly an incredible human being.
James Alexander
I first met Jay on his one day Soltara retreat. It was a bit of a rough start, straight into 6 hours of physical training and pushing me to my limits both physically and mentally. At the time, I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted. I didn't realise how far from the truth I was. Since then I have been working with Jay consistently for the last few years. He has helped me peel back the layers of who I really am and face myself. Within this work I have been able to accept and let go of past experiences that have been holding me back. Throughout our sessions, he has guided and helped me stay present in becoming a better man for myself and everyone in my life. He has been a very strong role model for me and someone I look up to as a mentor! He has the ability to truely show up for his clients and create a space where anything and everything is accepted with love and patience. I am truly grateful for what Jay has done for me and enabling me to step into my purpose. Thankyou for what you do brother, you have shown me what gratitude really means. You have allowed me to open and connect to this heart that was once a rock!
Primo Jacniacki
What a ride! I have participated in two one day retreats with Onyx Elite, I also had a privilege to train with Jay and his crew for a few years now. The Onyx Elite model of training and performing is just next level and forces you to show up and level up on every aspect -physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. No stone is left unturned and if you commit and come with clear intentions, you will find the answers you looking for. You will be challenged, you will be tested, you will work hard, you will cry, you will laugh and if you dig deep and give it everything you got, you will come out on the other side, reborn - stronger, healthier, happier and more aware. I highly recommend doing the one day retreat as a first step on your journey to self improvement, however you must be sure and committed and you must set clear intentions for this to work. You need to be ready to look deeply inside your soul and implement the changes you already know you need to implement. You need to be ready to let go of everything that has held you back and jump into the unknown. It’s not as easy as it sounds but if I could do it, so can you. Embrace your potential. You can Trust the people from Onyx Elite to take you to the next level, these guys know what they are doing. For me this was life changing and life saving experience that I am forever grateful for.
Joe Veevers
Title
When I first started working with Jay 2yrs ago I was in a pretty dark place. I felt hopelessly lost, depressed, and unsure of where my life was heading. I felt like I had no real sense of purpose or direction. I was stuck in my own head with not feeling good enough, or worthy of love from others or myself Jay has helped me so much to turn all that around! He has guided me through healing and helped me realise so much about myself. He didn’t just coach me, he believed in me until I started believing in myself again. Because of him, I’ve gone from feeling hopeless to feeling grateful, driven, and focused with a huge sense of gratitude for the life iv created. I’ve built real strength not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. Jay isn’t just a coach to me. He’s a genuine role model, someone who lives what he teaches and has shown me what it means to be a real man, a father and partner, and to lead with purpose. I’m forever grateful for the huge impact he’s had on my life.
Michael Tait
My connection to Jay came via his results. My wife, knowing that I was searching for support in bringing about change in my life was given the details of Onyx Elite Performance by her friend. That friend had seen seismic changes in the life of her partner and was quick to recommend that I speak with Jay. Some background on me. I’m a husband, father, veteran and continuing bush fire volunteer of 19 and a bit years. The man who first met Jay at his gym in September of 2023 was adrift, disconnected, and struggling. Attempts at mindfulness and exercise seemed to have no effect, likely unable to work thanks to the prescriptions for insomnia, anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress. I was ready for change but wouldn’t just grab any suggestions or advice given to me without a bit of checking on my part. When we started, I would listen to Jay, then make a note for later. After our sessions I’d start my research; trust but verify what I was being told and shown. Quickly I saw it was good stuff with solid academic backing. What had me all in was the results coming from the US veteran and first responder studies. Thanks to Jay I was able to work through the months-long process of reducing, then finally eliminating my prescription medications. At times it was tough, but I felt able to do this thanks to the ‘toolkit’ of breathwork, mindfulness, and exercise techniques he taught. Also important was the programmes and guidance material shared with me through my personal online folder. At the beginning of March, I participated in one of the Onyx-led 24hr retreats. With his expert guidance we were pushed to where we needed to be to open up to some real soul-searching and personal development. The personal significance of this session cannot be overstated; the 1st and 2nd of March represents a re-connection with parts of myself I thought had long disappeared. The man writing this referral in April 2024 doesn’t recognise the one who started out with Jay 7 months before. I feel more engaged with the world around me, a better and more present partner and father. The physical and personal changes have also been noticed by my colleagues at work and at the fire station, in turn encouraging me to better prioritise my personal health and wellbeing. Jay and Onyx Elite Performance have been great for my health and wellbeing. I encourage you to check out what is on offer in the group activities and/or the personal training options. For me I see an ongoing engagement with Onyx (and Jay); the programmes kicking up a notch as I continue to push past health milestones.
Saskia Stone
When I first met Jay, I was deeply lost. I was chasing validation and happiness through achievements, partying and exercise but the feeling never lasted. Looking on the outside I was successful for my age, but inside I felt I had failed: I was sad and I didn't know why. Jay welcomed me to the weirdest therapy session of my life. With a big hug and a smile, he invited me into his gym. It is here I learned the connection between the body and the mind and how my experiences had manifested physically and mentally. I learnt how to really feel, connect, forgive and eventually heal my body and mind. Within a couple months, I felt like a different person. I felt more content being still, felt more like me and only then realised how far I had drifted from myself. To clarify, working with Jay is uncomfortable. He will hold you accountable. It is emotional, honest, hilarious, painful and terrifying. But he will be there to guide you through the whole journey, a gentle but firm guide. In a blend of science and spiritualism, it is really hard to describe the service Jay provides. All I can say is that I attribute the work he has done with me to becoming a better friend, daughter, sister, athlete, worker and partner to the people I love in my life, and for that I am eternally grateful. The work is far from over but I am damn excited about how far I have come.
Paris
Physically - phenomenal, I feel like I can move a mountain. My training this week has been so empowering; I can push myself more because / know what I'm capable of. Mentally - clear, focused, determined, motivated Emotionally - fresh, new, balanced and centred Socially - feel ready to share my energy again with others and just be in community Spiritually - still synthesising, my soul is feeling a little solitary (haha, SOULitary) post-ceremony comedown. I wrote in my journal "I still can't make sense of some things, and I find myself questioning whether they're supposed to be made sense of, or just experienced? Perhaps we don't have the capacity to speak the language of the soul, and we just need to surrender to its knowing?" So enjoyed being my nurturing self, and identified the need for connection with my younger self. Prioritising the femme energy now, and also doing things l used to love like skating, singing, piano, dancing
Dave Brown
Working with Jay will not be comfortable. Heading to my first encounter with Jay I was riddled with anxiety, depression and an abundance of scepticism. I had been living my life in survival mode, guarded by the steep walls of avoidance, loathing, shame and regret. In my mind, I firmly believed my current disposition in life wasn't from a lack of trying to be better. I had planted the seeds of hope by seeking counsel through psychologists and doctors but was frequently met with surface level questions, generalised feedback and what felt like less empathy than could give myself, even at my lowest. These seeds bared no fruit and my only solution was to drown this barren field in alcohol, pity and despair. I had done everything I could and no one really understood or cared to understand. Until that fateful encounter... He looked me in the eye. He smiled and hugged me. In an instant my psyche felt safe and my soul knew, "this, is where the journey begins". This man's destiny is to heal others. This man actually gives a shit. We began with a series of deep questions and conversations, where trust, humility and vulnerability are imperative, from both parties. We pried into and peeled away layers of deep rooted pain, trauma and fear. Unwrapping a vast knot of confusion, despair and sadness. And then the work began... Jay will not go easy on you because he will believe in you more than you currently believe in yourself. Jay will expect radical commitment from you, to yourself, because he knows how valuable you truly are. Jay will make you undergo a healthy level of suffering but will nurture you enough for you to understand, that this suffering is essential for growth. Jay will not put up with your bullshit excuses you tell yourself, because neither should you. Jay will introduce you to your true self. I would not recommend Jay if you are not willing to be honest with yourself and have the humility to accept some hard truths. If you don't have the willingness to commit (to yourself and the process), persevere and do the hard work. If you don't have an open mind and a constant willingness to learn and grow. Working with Jay will not be comfortable. "A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be" - Tom Landry Jay has seen more in me than I had seen in myself. He has given me the greatest gift of reconnecting with myself and stepping into my power by taking ownership and responsibility of my life. I am honoured to call Jay a friend and a mentor. I am honoured to call Jay, Coach. Without hyperbole or exaggeration. Jay saved my life by helping me remember who l am. I am so grateful I took the first step on this journey. And the journey has only just begun.
Dave Brown
Working with Jay will not be comfortable. Heading to my first encounter with Jay I was riddled with anxiety, depression and an abundance of scepticism. I had been living my life in survival mode, guarded by the steep walls of avoidance, loathing, shame and regret. In my mind, I firmly believed my current disposition in life wasn't from a lack of trying to be better. I had planted the seeds of hope by seeking counsel through psychologists and doctors but was frequently met with surface level questions, generalised feedback and what felt like less empathy than could give myself, even at my lowest. These seeds bared no fruit and my only solution was to drown this barren field in alcohol, pity and despair. I had done everything I could and no one really understood or cared to understand. Until that fateful encounter... He looked me in the eye. He smiled and hugged me. In an instant my psyche felt safe and my soul knew, "this, is where the journey begins". This man's destiny is to heal others. This man actually gives a shit. We began with a series of deep questions and conversations, where trust, humility and vulnerability are imperative, from both parties. We pried into and peeled away layers of deep rooted pain, trauma and fear. Unwrapping a vast knot of confusion, despair and sadness. And then the work began... Jay will not go easy on you because he will believe in you more than you currently believe in yourself. Jay will expect radical commitment from you, to yourself, because he knows how valuable you truly are. Jay will make you undergo a healthy level of suffering but will nurture you enough for you to understand, that this suffering is essential for growth. Jay will not put up with your bullshit excuses you tell yourself, because neither should you. Jay will introduce you to your true self. I would not recommend Jay if you are not willing to be honest with yourself and have the humility to accept some hard truths. If you don't have the willingness to commit (to yourself and the process), persevere and do the hard work. If you don't have an open mind and a constant willingness to learn and grow. Working with Jay will not be comfortable. "A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be" - Tom Landry Jay has seen more in me than I had seen in myself. He has given me the greatest gift of reconnecting with myself and stepping into my power by taking ownership and responsibility of my life. I am honoured to call Jay a friend and a mentor. I am honoured to call Jay, Coach. Without hyperbole or exaggeration. Jay saved my life by helping me remember who l am. I am so grateful I took the first step on this journey. And the journey has only just begun.
Luke Simeone
I feel very blessed to have my first journey in such a safe environment. With 4 facilitators who I trust and respect and a team of brothers and sisters who all had each others back. I had powerful moments and an amazing positive experience! The journey was delivered with honour, respect, purpose and love. After settling in to normal life for a week and reflecting I still feel so amazing and connected. I feel focused healthy and pumped. lam responding to stress better and therefore I'm not feeling anxious. I feel calm and energetic. I'm making decisions quicker and not procrastinating. I'm more connected to what's really important and aligned with Yin Yang |hug my wife and kids that little bit longer and little bit tighter. I feel like I have more love to give I have found confidence and I feel powerful. I feel like training harder! | don't crave sugar or coffee. I don't take my ADHD medication anymore. I feel closer to finding my purpose! I feel powerful I wanted to use this platform to thank Jay for always being in my corner and showing me the way! My life has been better since you have been in it.
Luke Simeone
I feel very blessed to have my first journey in such a safe environment. With 4 facilitators who I trust and respect and a team of brothers and sisters who all had each others back. I had powerful moments and an amazing positive experience! The journey was delivered with honour, respect, purpose and love. After settling in to normal life for a week and reflecting I still feel so amazing and connected. I feel focused healthy and pumped. lam responding to stress better and therefore I'm not feeling anxious. I feel calm and energetic. I'm making decisions quicker and not procrastinating. I'm more connected to what's really important and aligned with Yin Yang |hug my wife and kids that little bit longer and little bit tighter. I feel like I have more love to give I have found confidence and I feel powerful. I feel like training harder! | don't crave sugar or coffee. I don't take my ADHD medication anymore. I feel closer to finding my purpose! I feel powerful I wanted to use this platform to thank Jay for always being in my corner and showing me the way! My life has been better since you have been in it.
Janki Shah
Over the past year, my work with Jay has been nothing short of transformational. We have explored many modalities together, including breathwork, bodywork, nervous system regulation and medicine work. Beyond any technique, what has mattered most is the way he has helped me return to myself. Through his presence, compassion and strength, I have learned to listen deeply, to soften and to see what has always been within me. Jay holds space with rare humility. He leads by example, grounded, open and without ego and in doing so creates the conditions for real change. He asks the right questions and offers reflections that land exactly where they need to. He does not tell you who to be or what to do; he simply helps you uncover what has always been there. Working with Jay has opened a path to confidence, purpose and self-respect that I did not know I could access. It has changed the way I relate to myself and to the people around me. I am deeply and sincerely grateful for his patience, his wisdom and the way he continues to walk beside me with kindness and integrity.
Janki Shah
Over the past year, my work with Jay has been nothing short of transformational. We have explored many modalities together, including breathwork, bodywork, nervous system regulation and medicine work. Beyond any technique, what has mattered most is the way he has helped me return to myself. Through his presence, compassion and strength, I have learned to listen deeply, to soften and to see what has always been within me. Jay holds space with rare humility. He leads by example, grounded, open and without ego and in doing so creates the conditions for real change. He asks the right questions and offers reflections that land exactly where they need to. He does not tell you who to be or what to do; he simply helps you uncover what has always been there. Working with Jay has opened a path to confidence, purpose and self-respect that I did not know I could access. It has changed the way I relate to myself and to the people around me. I am deeply and sincerely grateful for his patience, his wisdom and the way he continues to walk beside me with kindness and integrity.
Dani Patching
This is the beginning of a new journey of taking time to understand what I have been holding onto and putting energy into letting that go. If you've never tried breathwork before, or even if you have, I can't recommend Jay enough. It's not just a session-it's an experience, and one that really stays with you.
Dani Patching
This is the beginning of a new journey of taking time to understand what I have been holding onto and putting energy into letting that go. If you've never tried breathwork before, or even if you have, I can't recommend Jay enough. It's not just a session-it's an experience, and one that really stays with you.
Demelza
It's hard to put into words the enormity of an impact that joining the Onyx Elite community has had on many aspects of my life. Jay is a unique man who has a huge wealth of knowledge and experience in working with the human mind and body and this was very evident from the moment I stepped in the gym and witnessed what he was achieving with the clients he trained. l used to train for the same reasons as most people; to look good, to feel good and reduce stress, and because I loved working out with like minded people. Onyx is about so much more than training on a physical level, it's a space for awakening your true self. I have been on two retreats with Onyx now, with plenty more to come. Jay and his team take care of literally everything from recovery protocols to food and drink so that all you have to do is show up and trust the process. The physical challenges of the 4 day retreat are epic and pushed me beyond what I ever imagined I was capable of. This along with breath work, meditation and other modalities along the way gave me the tools I needed to breakthrough a lot of emotional baggage that I just didn't need in my life anymore, and the feeling was nothing short of exhilarating. These tools continue to serve me now and have become an integral part of my lifestyle. What I enjoy most about the retreats is the space that is created for strangers to connect, be vulnerable, be authentic and support each other through the journey. Each experience with Onyx offers something that can't be found anywhere else, whether it's on a retreat, a session in the gym or a Saturday morning trail run. I'm eternally grateful for each of these experiences and the many more to come.
Demelza
It's hard to put into words the enormity of an impact that joining the Onyx Elite community has had on many aspects of my life. Jay is a unique man who has a huge wealth of knowledge and experience in working with the human mind and body and this was very evident from the moment I stepped in the gym and witnessed what he was achieving with the clients he trained. l used to train for the same reasons as most people; to look good, to feel good and reduce stress, and because I loved working out with like minded people. Onyx is about so much more than training on a physical level, it's a space for awakening your true self. I have been on two retreats with Onyx now, with plenty more to come. Jay and his team take care of literally everything from recovery protocols to food and drink so that all you have to do is show up and trust the process. The physical challenges of the 4 day retreat are epic and pushed me beyond what I ever imagined I was capable of. This along with breath work, meditation and other modalities along the way gave me the tools I needed to breakthrough a lot of emotional baggage that I just didn't need in my life anymore, and the feeling was nothing short of exhilarating. These tools continue to serve me now and have become an integral part of my lifestyle. What I enjoy most about the retreats is the space that is created for strangers to connect, be vulnerable, be authentic and support each other through the journey. Each experience with Onyx offers something that can't be found anywhere else, whether it's on a retreat, a session in the gym or a Saturday morning trail run. I'm eternally grateful for each of these experiences and the many more to come.
Amie Staniscia
"I think everyone needs to do something like this. This is testing people more than mentally and physically, spiritually as well, and it's huge. Some people don't get to test themselves in that aspect. So I think if I were to tell somebody, I don't really even know how to put it into words. I feel like they just need to dive into it and don't overthink it, because some people obviously do overthink 12 hours' worth of training almost. It's like, oh, how am I going to do that? You just freaking do it. You get through it. And it's so euphoric.
Amie Staniscia
"I think everyone needs to do something like this. This is testing people more than mentally and physically, spiritually as well, and it's huge. Some people don't get to test themselves in that aspect. So I think if I were to tell somebody, I don't really even know how to put it into words. I feel like they just need to dive into it and don't overthink it, because some people obviously do overthink 12 hours' worth of training almost. It's like, oh, how am I going to do that? You just freaking do it. You get through it. And it's so euphoric.
Darren Wright
"It will be the best investment of physical Learning that I believe you can ever get. With so many takeaways, just do it. You've just got to give yourself over and the value that you get back is ten times greater than the fear that you went into it. And as one of my life sayings is, everything we want in life sits on the other side of fear. And that's exactly what you have to basically put in play to get through this."
Darren Wright
"It will be the best investment of physical Learning that I believe you can ever get. With so many takeaways, just do it. You've just got to give yourself over and the value that you get back is ten times greater than the fear that you went into it. And as one of my life sayings is, everything we want in life sits on the other side of fear. And that's exactly what you have to basically put in play to get through this."
Mollie Cross
This whole journey has been something i could never put into words nor try to ! From the first initial sit down with Jay the confidence l felt of sitting with a coach that had many years worth of true knowledge and was confident in it. I can hand on my heart say that for the better l am not the same woman/ was at the end of last year. I was in a space of not knowing where / was going, no purpose, not sure who / was and always looking outside myself for love, safety and security. With embarking on one of the retreats in March this has completely flipped my world upside down (for the better), the around the clock support and guidance before during and after this experience was in it's self something phenomenal! I will forever be grateful for this amazing support. This deep dive I have been on has taught me and still teaching me everyday new things that no one could ever take away from me. The tools I have been shown are now apart of my every day routines and lifestyle. I will forever be grateful for this amazing, ongoing journey and it wouldn't have been possible without Onyx. I cannot recommend enough starting this journey you will never look back.
Mollie Cross
This whole journey has been something i could never put into words nor try to ! From the first initial sit down with Jay the confidence l felt of sitting with a coach that had many years worth of true knowledge and was confident in it. I can hand on my heart say that for the better l am not the same woman/ was at the end of last year. I was in a space of not knowing where / was going, no purpose, not sure who / was and always looking outside myself for love, safety and security. With embarking on one of the retreats in March this has completely flipped my world upside down (for the better), the around the clock support and guidance before during and after this experience was in it's self something phenomenal! I will forever be grateful for this amazing support. This deep dive I have been on has taught me and still teaching me everyday new things that no one could ever take away from me. The tools I have been shown are now apart of my every day routines and lifestyle. I will forever be grateful for this amazing, ongoing journey and it wouldn't have been possible without Onyx. I cannot recommend enough starting this journey you will never look back.
Sophie Kilner
I started working with Jay over 12 months ago after hearing about a retreat he was running. At first, I thought it was mainly focused on fitness but it turned out to be so much deeper than that. When I first met Jay, I was struggling with a lot of things - some I was aware of, and others I wasn't. I was constantly seeking external solutions from psychiatrists, doctors, and other professionals, trying to "fix" myself. But after my very first consultation with Jay. I knew he was exactly who I needed. He helped me realise that so much of my healing started within and that in order to truly move forward, I needed to feel what I had been avoiding Since then, I've had many 1:1 sessions with him, and every single one leaves me in a completely different headspace. Even when we just talk, his energy alone is grounding, healing, and contagious. I've also attended several of his retreats, and each one has offered me something powerful and transformative. Jay's own journey has deeply inspired me as a coach. He's encouraged me to expand my own toolkit, to seek out modalities beyond just fitness which has led me to pursue my breathwork certification and continue evolving in ways I never expected. I'm forever grateful our paths crossed. Jay has not only helped me heal but has helped me step deeper into my purpose and I know I'll continue learning from him for many years to come.
Sophie Kilner
I started working with Jay over 12 months ago after hearing about a retreat he was running. At first, I thought it was mainly focused on fitness but it turned out to be so much deeper than that. When I first met Jay, I was struggling with a lot of things - some I was aware of, and others I wasn't. I was constantly seeking external solutions from psychiatrists, doctors, and other professionals, trying to "fix" myself. But after my very first consultation with Jay. I knew he was exactly who I needed. He helped me realise that so much of my healing started within and that in order to truly move forward, I needed to feel what I had been avoiding Since then, I've had many 1:1 sessions with him, and every single one leaves me in a completely different headspace. Even when we just talk, his energy alone is grounding, healing, and contagious. I've also attended several of his retreats, and each one has offered me something powerful and transformative. Jay's own journey has deeply inspired me as a coach. He's encouraged me to expand my own toolkit, to seek out modalities beyond just fitness which has led me to pursue my breathwork certification and continue evolving in ways I never expected. I'm forever grateful our paths crossed. Jay has not only helped me heal but has helped me step deeper into my purpose and I know I'll continue learning from him for many years to come.
Dave Brown
Working with Jay will not be comfortable. Heading to my first encounter with Jay I was riddled with anxiety, depression and an abundance of scepticism. I had been living my life in survival mode, guarded by the steep walls of avoidance, loathing, shame and regret. In my mind, I firmly believed my current disposition in life wasn't from a lack of trying to be better. I had planted the seeds of hope by seeking counsel through psychologists and doctors but was frequently met with surface level questions, generalised feedback and what felt like less empathy than could give myself, even at my lowest. These seeds bared no fruit and my only solution was to drown this barren field in alcohol, pity and despair. I had done everything I could and no one really understood or cared to understand. Until that fateful encounter... He looked me in the eye. He smiled and hugged me. In an instant my psyche felt safe and my soul knew, "this, is where the journey begins". This man's destiny is to heal others. This man actually gives a shit. We began with a series of deep questions and conversations, where trust, humility and vulnerability are imperative, from both parties. We pried into and peeled away layers of deep rooted pain, trauma and fear. Unwrapping a vast knot of confusion, despair and sadness. And then the work began... Jay will not go easy on you because he will believe in you more than you currently believe in yourself. Jay will expect radical commitment from you, to yourself, because he knows how valuable you truly are. Jay will make you undergo a healthy level of suffering but will nurture you enough for you to understand, that this suffering is essential for growth. Jay will not put up with your bullshit excuses you tell yourself, because neither should you. Jay will introduce you to your true self. I would not recommend Jay if you are not willing to be honest with yourself and have the humility to accept some hard truths. If you don't have the willingness to commit (to yourself and the process), persevere and do the hard work. If you don't have an open mind and a constant willingness to learn and grow. Working with Jay will not be comfortable. "A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be" - Tom Landry Jay has seen more in me than I had seen in myself. He has given me the greatest gift of reconnecting with myself and stepping into my power by taking ownership and responsibility of my life. I am honoured to call Jay a friend and a mentor. I am honoured to call Jay, Coach. Without hyperbole or exaggeration. Jay saved my life by helping me remember who l am. I am so grateful I took the first step on this journey. And the journey has only just begun.
Luke Simeone
I feel very blessed to have my first journey in such a safe environment. With 4 facilitators who I trust and respect and a team of brothers and sisters who all had each others back. I had powerful moments and an amazing positive experience! The journey was delivered with honour, respect, purpose and love. After settling in to normal life for a week and reflecting I still feel so amazing and connected. I feel focused healthy and pumped. lam responding to stress better and therefore I'm not feeling anxious. I feel calm and energetic. I'm making decisions quicker and not procrastinating. I'm more connected to what's really important and aligned with Yin Yang |hug my wife and kids that little bit longer and little bit tighter. I feel like I have more love to give I have found confidence and I feel powerful. I feel like training harder! | don't crave sugar or coffee. I don't take my ADHD medication anymore. I feel closer to finding my purpose! I feel powerful I wanted to use this platform to thank Jay for always being in my corner and showing me the way! My life has been better since you have been in it.
Janki Shah
Over the past year, my work with Jay has been nothing short of transformational. We have explored many modalities together, including breathwork, bodywork, nervous system regulation and medicine work. Beyond any technique, what has mattered most is the way he has helped me return to myself. Through his presence, compassion and strength, I have learned to listen deeply, to soften and to see what has always been within me. Jay holds space with rare humility. He leads by example, grounded, open and without ego and in doing so creates the conditions for real change. He asks the right questions and offers reflections that land exactly where they need to. He does not tell you who to be or what to do; he simply helps you uncover what has always been there. Working with Jay has opened a path to confidence, purpose and self-respect that I did not know I could access. It has changed the way I relate to myself and to the people around me. I am deeply and sincerely grateful for his patience, his wisdom and the way he continues to walk beside me with kindness and integrity.
Dani Patching
This is the beginning of a new journey of taking time to understand what I have been holding onto and putting energy into letting that go. If you've never tried breathwork before, or even if you have, I can't recommend Jay enough. It's not just a session-it's an experience, and one that really stays with you.
Demelza
It's hard to put into words the enormity of an impact that joining the Onyx Elite community has had on many aspects of my life. Jay is a unique man who has a huge wealth of knowledge and experience in working with the human mind and body and this was very evident from the moment I stepped in the gym and witnessed what he was achieving with the clients he trained. l used to train for the same reasons as most people; to look good, to feel good and reduce stress, and because I loved working out with like minded people. Onyx is about so much more than training on a physical level, it's a space for awakening your true self. I have been on two retreats with Onyx now, with plenty more to come. Jay and his team take care of literally everything from recovery protocols to food and drink so that all you have to do is show up and trust the process. The physical challenges of the 4 day retreat are epic and pushed me beyond what I ever imagined I was capable of. This along with breath work, meditation and other modalities along the way gave me the tools I needed to breakthrough a lot of emotional baggage that I just didn't need in my life anymore, and the feeling was nothing short of exhilarating. These tools continue to serve me now and have become an integral part of my lifestyle. What I enjoy most about the retreats is the space that is created for strangers to connect, be vulnerable, be authentic and support each other through the journey. Each experience with Onyx offers something that can't be found anywhere else, whether it's on a retreat, a session in the gym or a Saturday morning trail run. I'm eternally grateful for each of these experiences and the many more to come.
Amie Staniscia
"I think everyone needs to do something like this. This is testing people more than mentally and physically, spiritually as well, and it's huge. Some people don't get to test themselves in that aspect. So I think if I were to tell somebody, I don't really even know how to put it into words. I feel like they just need to dive into it and don't overthink it, because some people obviously do overthink 12 hours' worth of training almost. It's like, oh, how am I going to do that? You just freaking do it. You get through it. And it's so euphoric.
Darren Wright
"It will be the best investment of physical Learning that I believe you can ever get. With so many takeaways, just do it. You've just got to give yourself over and the value that you get back is ten times greater than the fear that you went into it. And as one of my life sayings is, everything we want in life sits on the other side of fear. And that's exactly what you have to basically put in play to get through this."
Mollie Cross
This whole journey has been something i could never put into words nor try to ! From the first initial sit down with Jay the confidence l felt of sitting with a coach that had many years worth of true knowledge and was confident in it. I can hand on my heart say that for the better l am not the same woman/ was at the end of last year. I was in a space of not knowing where / was going, no purpose, not sure who / was and always looking outside myself for love, safety and security. With embarking on one of the retreats in March this has completely flipped my world upside down (for the better), the around the clock support and guidance before during and after this experience was in it's self something phenomenal! I will forever be grateful for this amazing support. This deep dive I have been on has taught me and still teaching me everyday new things that no one could ever take away from me. The tools I have been shown are now apart of my every day routines and lifestyle. I will forever be grateful for this amazing, ongoing journey and it wouldn't have been possible without Onyx. I cannot recommend enough starting this journey you will never look back.
Sophie Kilner
I started working with Jay over 12 months ago after hearing about a retreat he was running. At first, I thought it was mainly focused on fitness but it turned out to be so much deeper than that. When I first met Jay, I was struggling with a lot of things - some I was aware of, and others I wasn't. I was constantly seeking external solutions from psychiatrists, doctors, and other professionals, trying to "fix" myself. But after my very first consultation with Jay. I knew he was exactly who I needed. He helped me realise that so much of my healing started within and that in order to truly move forward, I needed to feel what I had been avoiding Since then, I've had many 1:1 sessions with him, and every single one leaves me in a completely different headspace. Even when we just talk, his energy alone is grounding, healing, and contagious. I've also attended several of his retreats, and each one has offered me something powerful and transformative. Jay's own journey has deeply inspired me as a coach. He's encouraged me to expand my own toolkit, to seek out modalities beyond just fitness which has led me to pursue my breathwork certification and continue evolving in ways I never expected. I'm forever grateful our paths crossed. Jay has not only helped me heal but has helped me step deeper into my purpose and I know I'll continue learning from him for many years to come.
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.
Step into a system that unites body, mind, and spirit through performance, breath, and self-mastery.
Onyx Elite
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.
Step into a system that unites body, mind, and spirit through performance, breath, and self-mastery.
Onyx Elite
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.
Step into a system that unites body, mind, and spirit through performance, breath, and self-mastery.
Onyx Elite
Immerse. Adapt. Evolve.